Has it happened to you? You’ve written a book about a vampire and when someone meets you, they are a bit disappointed that you don’t exactly look like one? Jami Attenberg March talks about her experience with invasive publicity.
Writers do tend to get judged by the kind of themes they choose. If the character is obese, then shouldn’t the writer be? If the character is divorced, then you can assume that the writer is. Sometimes the reader is more interested in the fiction of the author’s life than the fiction that the author makes up. Some writers heartily disagree that autobiography tends to crop in their work, while others are more accepting of this. The story does come from a writer’s heart but we should read the author for the work’s sake and not the author’s life. We have enough of a life of our own.